About the Collective
“I didn’t create the Compassion Collective just to host pretty events.
I created it to provide healing experiences for successful, brilliant Black and Brown women who were silently struggling under the weight of all they carried.
A place for women like me.”
Born from Esther Boykin’s two decades of clinical work with high-achieving Black women, the Compassion Collective exists to create culturally rooted, luxuriously restorative wellness spaces where women of color can set down their armor, rediscover joy, and return home to themselves.
Blending clinical insight, communal care, and experiential luxury, we offer more than a retreat, we offer sanctuary. It’s a way of being that carries you forward long after you leave.
Our signature retreats anchor the Compassion Collective's mission, while our webinars, Salons, and Soft Life Suppers provide access to curated wellness experiences throughout the year in a variety of formats.
Whether you gather with us for intimate, thoughtfully curated conversations at The Salon, or savor sumptuous flavors alongside authentic sister-talk at a Soft Life Supper, every Compassion Collective offering is a preview of our retreat ethos: radical self-compassion paired with rich communal care.
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THE SALON
Where bold ideas and soft hearts align.
The Salon is an intimate space for deep conversation, shared insight, and bold ideas. Inspired by the intellectual salons of Harlem and Paris and the hair salons found in Black communities across the globe, this gathering is a space to think, feel, and expand in good company.
Offered virtually and in select cities, each themed Salon explores one of our core pillars—self-compassion, communal care, aligned ambition, and more. With space for only 20–25 women, The Salon is a unique opportunity to experience the depth and intimacy of the Compassion Collective in an accessible, community-focused format.
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SOFT LIFE SUPPER
A taste of luxury. A return to self.
Soft Life Suppers are for the woman who craves something more—a moment of beauty, intimacy, and soul-nourishing conversation. Held in elegant private spaces with 10–12 women, these gatherings are less about structure and more about presence. With candlelight, good wine, laughter, and honesty, these evenings reflect the heart of the Compassion Collective: luxury as a path to healing, and connection as a way back to self.
Soft Life Suppers are beautifully curated evenings of gourmet food and intentional connection. Designed to mirror the retreat experience, each dinner offers nourishment for your body and spirit.
“This is a place of belonging. After having it, I can’t really imagine ever not having it.
My dream for the Collective as a whole is to stay very connected- I love knowing I have this collective of women in my life.”
Membership
Launching soon, Compassion Collective Membership turns retreat into rhythm,
offering you an easy path to transform episodic self-care into an intentional practice of self-compassion.
With two tiers to choose from, members receive retreat discounts and early access, complimentary tickets to The Salon series, member rates on 1:1 coaching, and access to a vetted network of Black therapists. It’s the backbone of long-term transformation and sustainable communal care.
This is for you if…
You’ve experienced fleeting relief from retreats or workshops but crave sustained support.
You want a trusted circle of Black women peers and experts to hold you accountable.
You value the luxury of regular renewal—and the strategic edge it gives your personal and professional life.
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Which Membership Is Right For You?
collective care that outlasts any weekend getaway
Compassion Collective Membership ensures you have consistent, culturally-attuned care whenever you need it, no matter which tier you choose. Instead of waiting for burnout to strike, you’ll have ongoing tools, community, and guidance to navigate life’s pressures with presence and grace.
What’s Included?
Year-round access to virtual & in-person Salons
Exclusive invitations to Soft Life Suppers at member rates
Priority early booking and up to 30% off retreats
A private digital resource library
Coffee & Clarity coaching sessions for focused one-on-one support
Gather
Come home to yourself in community
Gather is your entry point into the Compassion Collective. Designed for women seeking meaningful connection and gentle guidance, this tier offers access to curated content, monthly virtual check-ins, and invitations to community events. It’s a soft place to land, where you can slow down, feel seen, and begin to prioritize yourself, without pressure, and with purpose.
Community
Salons (virtual + in-person), dinners at member rate, resource library
Coaching
Coffee & Clarity sessions at $175 (optional, as booked)
Retreat Perks
20 % off any retreat room
Ambassador Referral Bonus
Earn 10 % cash or 20 % credit
Devoted
Nourishing who you're becoming
This premium tier blends everything in Gather with personalized 1:1 support. Here, devotion replaces discipline, ambition aligns with ease, and the soft life becomes a sustainable way of being. Whether you're navigating a pivot or reimagining your leadership, Devoted provides the nourishment and accountability you need to grow.
Community
Everything in Gather
Coaching
4 Coffee & Clarity sessions included + VIP priority
Retreat Perks
30 % off any retreat room
Ambassador Referral Bonus
Earn 10 % cash or 20 % credit
“What differentiates the Compassion Collective is the continued support.
Knowing I have a supportive community and ongoing resources inspires me to dive deeper and commit more fully to my growth.”
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